I came across an article today that talked about should couples schedule sex with their partners? We've heard of and maybe even your therapist has suggested doing this. They say it helps couples who are having a hard time connecting intimately and it can keep partners sexually satisfied. However, does scheduling to make love take the passion out of it?
Here's my take:
Everyone is busy these days between work, kids, chores, etc. Therefore it can be hard making time to get it on with your spouse. I suppose a schedule is OK as long as you are still "hot" for your partner. Couples do what works for them, everyone needs something different. Now, if you are scheduling sex just so that you don't have to hear the other person's mouth, that's a bigger issue. Either you guys need to re-kindle the heat by having a date night or vacay, or you need to call a therapist! Having a sex calendar is boring...where is the excitement and passion? I know a lot of happily married couples. They say you just make time! Sex is a VERY important part of marriage, you can't ignore it because it will develop into a HUGE problem. However, I don't want to be my husband's 8pm appointment! Now I will sign off on scheduling a fantasy night or kinky sex night, that might be fun to see what each other comes up with!
Everything else in our lives is on a schedule... we don't need to schedule having great sex with our spouses too. Now check back with me in about 2 or 3 years when I'm juggling kids, career, and marriage...my opinion might be a different LOL!
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